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以前は何十匹もいた猫、今は家猫3匹外猫3匹になり、初めて犬のいない暮らしをしています。英語、フランス語、ドイツ語、ピアノ、細々と続けています。ブログの名前は“Le Petit Prince 星の王子さま”より。

結婚後
2016-09-30 07:49

今朝のチャッピー
(朝のチャッピー)
One of the friends who came to see me the other day said that after she glanced at my hands, she thought I must've had a hard time since I got married. She also lived with her in-laws for a long time, so she understood my situation.
I was kind of relieved to know that I am not the only person who went through difficult times.

L'une de mes amies qui est venue avant hier m'a dit que j'avais dû passer des moments difficiles après avoir jeté un coup d'œil sur mes mains. Elle a aussi habité avec ses beaux-parents pendant longtemps, elle a pu comprendre ma situation.
J'étais un peu soulagée parce que je ne suis pas la seule qui a beaucoup souffert.

先日来た友達が私の手をちらっと見て苦労した手ね、私もそうだけど、と言ったのでなぜかうれしかったです。
お互いお舅姑と暮らしていたので共通点もあって話が弾みました。
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Japanese ancient marriage style. 古来日本では女性は太陽だった。Long long ago, after marriage, wives had stayed at their home like “Sazae-san, Mrs.Sazae.” Living in their own home with their parents, wives could live happily, relaxed. The most important benefit was nursing their children with their own parents. Mothers’ stress or tiredness affect the development and immunity of the children. Unfortunately, after shogunate period, wives have had a hard time dwelling with the husbands’ parents. My maternal grand mother had been bullied by her step monther and sisiters in low and died when she was 54yo. My aunt was just 10 yo when she lost her mother.
Posted by motomasaong at 2016-09-30 14:17 | 編集
motomasaongさん、
私の世代は夫の家族と住むのは当たり前だったので友達の半数くらいは一緒に住んでいました。
Nowadays younger generation is different. They tend to think taking care of their parents parents-in-law is not their job, it not duty any more, just depends on their sense of responsibility and sincerity. When I was younger I was timid, I was not able to tell my husband my frustration, complaints, l alone the plans to live separately. on the other hand some of my friends were really opinionated, they wanted to be free, left their in-laws' house soon after they go married. The friends who visited me recently were also meek, so I was relived to know that there are women like like me. I respect independent women who have own world, but I cannot be like them because of my innate cowardly(shyness).

Posted by ReikoJanvier at 2016-10-01 09:34 | 編集
motomasaongさん、
私の世代は夫の家族と住むのは当たり前だったので友達の半数くらいは一緒に住んでいました。
Nowadays the younger generation is different. They tend to think taking care of their parents and parents-in-law is not their job, it's not their duty any more. It just depends on their sense of responsibility and sincerity. When I was younger I was timid, I was not able to tell my husband my frustrations and complaints. It was unthinkable then to say l wanted to live apart from his parents.On the other hand some of my friends were really opinionated, they wanted to be free and left their in-laws' house soon after they go married. The friends who visited me recently were also reticent to say anything.I was relived to know that there are women like like me. I respect independent women who have their own life but I cannot be
like them because of my innate shyness and passivity

Posted by ReikoJanvier at 2016-10-01 15:06 | 編集
motomasaongさん、
私の世代は夫の家族と住むのは当たり前だったので友達の半数くらいは一緒に住んでいました。
Nowadays the younger generation is different. They tend to think taking care of their parents and parents-in-law is not their job, it's not their duty any more. It just depends on their sense of responsibility and sincerity. When I was younger I was timid, I was not able to tell my husband my frustrations and complaints. It was unthinkable then to say l wanted to live apart from his parents.On the other hand some of my friends were really opinionated, they wanted to be free and left their in-laws' house soon after they go married. The friends who visited me recently were also reticent to say anything.I was relived to know that there are women like like me. I respect independent women who have their own life but I cannot be
like them because of my innate shyness and passivity

Posted by ReikoJanvier at 2016-10-01 15:21 | 編集
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